You ever.. AHHH! Just get so MAD? ... Some days, I could just unleash on some people. I don't know what it is about anger.. But it finds a way, to entangle itself, and to completely poison anything you have going.
Anger destroys many people, and families. But how do you cope with stress? How do you "count to ten" so to speak? I know, myself, I have a hard time with that. I cuss like a sailor, and can be very straightforward at times, maybe too much.
Knowing the reason Why, would be a great thing. So, I dig...
What really pisses me off?
Why does it get to me so badly?
How long do I go without letting off some steam, the right way?
How do I avoid situations that set me off?
How do I resolve them once it's too late?
and...
Why do you wait so long, and let everything build up?
well, as mothers, I believe we ALL do this. We stress over perfection, food, laundry, sex, and the kids.. and by the time we take care of everyone else, our day is over, and we still didn't finish the dishes. Just for me, stress = anger and then later tears..
So what's A woman to do? Huh? Let me tell you what my grandma told me last night when she was here.. She could see the stress all over my face.
" Melissa Dawn " thats me .. lol.. " What the hell are you so mad about? Why do you let yourself get all worked up over things that really are not that important? What you need to do, is say screw housework, and have a beer."
In a sense, it was the perfect thing to say.
Take time for yourself. My grandmother wishes she had.. She said her life has passed her by, and anger was a HUGE Problem of hers. And she regrets many of the decisions that were made out of anger. She says that like me, stress caused it. She was always trying to perfect everything she did. And, oh, she always had to be right. "thats something I got over REALLY quick" She told me. "You just have to bite the bullet, and know when you get older, karma will kiss your hind side."
What would I do without this woman.
I Love my grandma so much, she is a very smart, witty, and TOUGH Italian woman. I hope I can be a lot like her when I age. I think I'll be alright.
Now that my kids are about to push me over the edge.. I think I'll have a beer. lol
~mis
Anger destroys many people, and families. But how do you cope with stress? How do you "count to ten" so to speak? I know, myself, I have a hard time with that. I cuss like a sailor, and can be very straightforward at times, maybe too much.
Knowing the reason Why, would be a great thing. So, I dig...
What really pisses me off?
Why does it get to me so badly?
How long do I go without letting off some steam, the right way?
How do I avoid situations that set me off?
How do I resolve them once it's too late?
and...
Why do you wait so long, and let everything build up?
well, as mothers, I believe we ALL do this. We stress over perfection, food, laundry, sex, and the kids.. and by the time we take care of everyone else, our day is over, and we still didn't finish the dishes. Just for me, stress = anger and then later tears..
So what's A woman to do? Huh? Let me tell you what my grandma told me last night when she was here.. She could see the stress all over my face.
" Melissa Dawn " thats me .. lol.. " What the hell are you so mad about? Why do you let yourself get all worked up over things that really are not that important? What you need to do, is say screw housework, and have a beer."
In a sense, it was the perfect thing to say.
Take time for yourself. My grandmother wishes she had.. She said her life has passed her by, and anger was a HUGE Problem of hers. And she regrets many of the decisions that were made out of anger. She says that like me, stress caused it. She was always trying to perfect everything she did. And, oh, she always had to be right. "thats something I got over REALLY quick" She told me. "You just have to bite the bullet, and know when you get older, karma will kiss your hind side."
What would I do without this woman.
I Love my grandma so much, she is a very smart, witty, and TOUGH Italian woman. I hope I can be a lot like her when I age. I think I'll be alright.
Now that my kids are about to push me over the edge.. I think I'll have a beer. lol
~mis
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3 comments:
I totally agree with your very smart gradnmother. Stress gets to the best of us, but with age you learn what's important and what can just be left by the roadside. Sometimes though, the stresses are so high that we just have to let loose. Go outside and scream at the top of your lungs, lock yourself in the bathroom for a bubble bath, plug your ears up with music as loud as you can stand it.
Just do what you have to do to stay sane. :-)
I totally stress over everything and I do mean everything. It totally drives hubby insane, I stress so much. Taking a step back, looking at what is stressing me and talking about it does help. Sometimes we can't escape what is stressing us. I am slowly, very slowly learning how to escape, with the help of my hubby.
I agree with your Grandmother, too. And besides...every once in awhile a beer sounds good. I usually lock myself in my master bathroom and take a long hot candlelight bath with lavender oil...it just melts the stress away and then you let the stress go down the drain with the water...visualization is a wonderful tool!
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